how to look after yourself when you’ve got a young baby

Every parent falls in love with their baby at first sight. Often even before the baby is born. But loving your baby doesn’t mean being a parent isn’t exhausting. 

Whether you are a new parent or not, there are days when your baby won’t stop crying, and your patience will be getting thin. Don’t let it convince you that you are a bad parent. On the contrary, you need to be kind to yourself too. Having a baby is a 24/7 job that requires your full attention most of the time. You need to figure out what your child is trying to communicate, why they are crying, what they need, and much more. You don’t feel like you’ve got time to look after yourself when you’re stuck with changing diapers, feeding your baby, and trying to soothe their discomfort. 

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Make time to eat

Did you know that new mothers are more likely to lose weight during the first months after having a baby? It should be a crucial time for recovery, as your body goes through a lot during pregnancy and birth. Unfortunately, many mothers struggle to keep up regular and balanced meals during that time. Indeed, when you need to care for your baby, it’s easy to forget about yourself. However, regular meals are essential in building back your fitness, strength, and health. We appreciate that it can be tricky to prepare a meal and eat. But you can find quick and easy options, such as this smart chicken shawarma, which you can hold in your hand while feeding your baby. 

Make time to sleep

By the time they reach 3 to 4 months, most babies can sleep at least 5 hours at a time, which means you can get a break. But before that point, it can be tricky to get enough sleep. There is no parenting journey without eyes rimmed with tiredness and dark rings. However, you need to catch up on sleep to function, both mentally and physically. There is no magic spell to solve the problem. But you can find tricks to sneak in some hours of zzz, such as trying to sleep when your baby is asleep and creating a rest schedule with your partner. 

Just make time to be you

As much as you love your baby, you also need to reserve time for yourself. It’s easy to lose yourself in your responsibilities and life as a parent. But, you need to acknowledge how stressful and exhausting the situation can be for you. Carving out a few precious hours where you can be yourself is not selfish. It is indispensable for your mental health to switch off from time to time and recharge your batteries. You needn’t feel guilty about asking for help. Remind yourself that it is okay to leave your baby with the grandparents or a reliable childminder for an afternoon while you go to town, book a pampering appointment, or simply catch up with friends. You are allowed to be yourself and do things you enjoy too. 

As a new mother, you might feel overwhelmed at times. Looking after a baby is tiring. When you try to function on lack of sleep, food, and mental rest, you are more likely to feel stressed, depressed, and weak. Your baby deserves a strong mother, and that’s why you have every right to look after yourself too.

** This was a contributed post.

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life with a toddler: waiting for dada

One of our favourite things to do at the end of each weekday is wait for Geoffrey in the window. I place Remy on the couch and sit on the trunk just opposite the couch. She crawls and walks back and forth, slapping the cushions, talking to people who walk by, and smiling at all of the vehicles. She always turns to look at me to make sure that I’m watching her, then resumes her window-watching.

When Geoffrey pulls up, I always say, “dada’s home!” She immediately starts smiling, and watches him intently as he parks, gets out of his vehicle, and walks up to the window. She says, “yeah,” “dada,” and “heyyyyy” over and over again. Then they play through the glass for a few minutes, usually peek-a-boo. It melts my heart.

I always thought that I would be more strict and not let her play and jump on the couch like this, but it’s just once a day and for a good reason. I love seeing her so happy, and seeing my husband’s face when he finally gets to see her at the end of a long day.

This is our life with a toddler. My heart is so full.

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Emory

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mommy and me: christmas ootd

Processed with VSCO with a4 presetLast year, I compiled a Christmas outfit list that I desperately wanted to buy and wear. This year, I put together an actual outfit that I will be wearing. 

This OOTD is both practical and coordinated with my littlest. My dress was purchased from Choies. While light grey definitely doesn’t hide any flaws, I just adore the colour.

Remy’s cute onesie was actually purchased from the grocery store. It has a wonderful sparkle to it that makes it look dressier than a regular onesie. Her thick tights are from The Children’s Place.

Processed with VSCO with a4 presetI don’t always match my daughter like this. However, it’s Christmas, and if ugly sweaters are fashionable, then so are matching outfits. At least in my world.

See you next week!

<3

Emory

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matching green dresses

Processed with VSCO with a4 presetHave any of you ever seen The Money Pit? It has always been one of my favourite movies. Little did I know that I would one day be living it out.

Our new home so far has had its share of issues. Remember the scene in the film where Tom Hanks and Shelley Long had to boil water in order to take a bath? We did that for a week. Or when Hanks rings the doorbell and gets shocked, so he starts knocking on the door and it falls in? I got locked out one afternoon when I tried unlocking the door and my key got stuck in the lock and is now permanently bent. Or when they had to pack up the house and move out in order for it to get exterminated? Oh wait, that was us.

Processed with VSCO with a4 presetLast week was a complete nightmare. We ended up having to move back to the acreage while our own money pit was getting sprayed. While we were staying there, I wanted to make the most of it. I slowly began to feel more like myself. The weather was gorgeous, and the dogs were able to roam freely, and my little sidekick of a daughter adjusted exceptionally well. So on one particular day, I put on our new green dresses, and Remy and I had a photo shoot.

Processed with VSCO with a4 presetThank goodness for my family. If it wasn’t for them, I don’t know where we would’ve gone with all of our things, a baby, two dogs, and a cat. We will turn this money pit around, slowly, but surely.

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Emory

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3 months

Remy 3 Months - 2Yesterday Remy turned 3 months old. She has grown so much from last month. These are her recent milestones.

– She loves books and will let us read to her for hours on end 
– Still sleeps 12 hours and only wakes up once or twice to feed
– Has discovered and loves chewing on her hands
– Sticks out her tongue when we stick out ours
– Can hold her head up for long periods of time and now sits in a Bumbo chair
– Reaches for, grabs, and holds onto her toys
– Has discovered her toes
– Loves napping on mum or dad 
– Tries to pull herself up
– Smiles and talks all day long (when she’s not feeding)

Remy 3 Months - 9I wonder how she will change yet again in one month’s time. I hope it won’t be too drastic. She’s so serious, but so silly at the same time. I look forward to spending my days with her, as she makes me laugh all day long. I really love the little person that she is now. Happy 3 months, my love!

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Emory

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